This is a guest blog from Claire Morphet of Rochdale’s PossAbilities CIC Shared Lives scheme. Claire writes:
In April of this year I was approached by Harold’s daughter Lynne who gave up her job as a college lecturer to look after her dad. She has had her house adapted to support his needs and completely changed her lifestyle. Previously, when Lynne had to go in hospital, Harold went for respite in a nursing home. Although Lynne had invested many hours researching and visiting nursing homes, when Harold returned home, she described her dad as ‘losing more of himself’. Now, Lynne’s wedding was planned, but she had intense fears of leaving her dad in a traditional respite setting again.
The first time I went out to visit Harold and Lynne, Lynne described her dad as she remembered him: an amazing dad and grandad who loved children. When Harold greeted me and gave me a little dance, I was moved by the kindness in his face. Throughout the time I spent with Lynne and her dad the love that she feels for him was evident. We chatted about Shared Lives and Lynne immediately put her trust in us. What Lynne and I experienced over the next couple of months was one of the hardest professional journeys I have taken and possibly one of the toughest journeys Lynne has had to make. During these months Harold was introduced to two Shared Lives carers, but both had to withdraw from providing support following changes in their own circumstances. Matches do not always work out, but it’s our role to keep trying until the right match is found.
Karen lives very near to Harold and visits the same Tesco that Harold regularly enjoys to visit. Her husband, Vincent, remembered Harold as a former next door neighbour when he was a child. During the two weeks that Harold stayed with Karen, we kept in regular contact. Following the short break, Karen said, “It was an absolute Continue reading